Why is it that when people find out that my little brother is getting married, they always ask if I’m OK with it?

I’m only 25… I am in no hurry whatsoever to get married. Do I want to? Of course. But when I do get married, I’m only doing it once. So I’m making damn sure that I make the right choice. And my brother, although I support him 100% in his engagement, is only 22 and has only been dating his fiance since last October. People always look at me with such pity when they find out that he’s getting married before me. And then when they find out that I’m the one actually planning the wedding, they are always shocked that “I could handle that”. (Their words.. not mine.)

Also, why do these same people always assume that because I’m not married, or in relationship at the moment, my standards are too high? My mom even accuses me of this at times. I really don’t feel as if I’m asking too much out of a guy. I want a guy who 1.) Has a job, 2.) Understands that respect is the key to any relationship, and 3.) Doesn’t expect me to put out on a first date. Not that I’m saying there’s anything wrong with a bit of fun sex… just don’t expect it of me.

I guess I’m just not much of a casual dater. I like going on first dates well enough. That little flutter of excitement/nervousness is my favorite part of the evening. But if I don’t feel a connection within the first couple of dates, I’m not going to continue dating someone just because. Why waste my time dating someone I see no future with when I could be out meeting new potentials?? That being said.. I am on a bit of a dating drought lately. It’s been a little long since my last first date.. anyone know any potential men?? =)